GROW COMPASSIONATE, COLLABORATIVE,
AND SUSTAINABLE RELATIONSHIPS
(aka Nonviolent Communication or NVC) IS:
A communication process and awareness practice that supports us to relate compassionately with ourselves and in community with others. NVC gives us a practical and effective map for transforming habitual reactions (judging and blaming ways of speaking and thinking) into a language and a way of being that bridges connections of heart.
The intention of NVC is to inspire compassionate giving towards creating a quality of connection where everyone’s needs are valued and can be peacefully met. The process is based on an understanding that all our actions are an attempt to meet our universal human needs such as love, support, empathy, understanding, joy, and creative expression.
WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE?
~Do you struggle to maintain your center and not close down your heart in the face of conflict?
~Collapse and withdraw or loose it and say things you regret when you’re judged or criticised?
~Lash out with blame when you think you have been wronged?
~Loose track of your own needs when trying to help, please or avoid conflict?
~Cruelly judge yourself based on how you think you should be?
~Get frustrated when you speak your truth to someone and it is received as blame?
~Feel daunted by the idea of offering empathy to people when they do or say things you can’t stand?
~Not sure how to speak up to that person who gets on your nerves without exploding?
Would you like to be confident in communicating your needs while also equally honoring the needs of others?
~Workshop at Tulan in Mexico~
LEARN CONCRETE SKILLS TO:
~Listen for the deeper meaning in what others are communicating even when it sounds like judgment or blame
~Stay centered and compassionate in times of conflict
~Transform heated reactions that separate you into conscious responses that connect you
~Unravel habitual thinking and emotions that limit and constrict you
~Speak your truth transparently with full responsibility and compassion
~Create deeper self-understanding and trust in yourself in the hardest of times
~Balance your own needs with those of others and the group’s needs as a whole
~Make empowered choices through being connected to your core values
BENEFITS FOR GROUPS:
(when integrating these practices into daily life and group agreements)
~Members relate to each other with an understanding of our common human needs and value the connection between members as the priority
~Compassionate feedback is given and received in an encouraging way that supports growth, awareness and solidarity
~Group members have confidence that they can hear each other’s needs even when how others speak sounds like judgment or blame
~The experience of trust grows due to agreements about communication
~The creative energy of the group is put towards working together in collaboration
~There is a spirit of gratitude for each person’s contribution to the group
~The shared purpose moves you and brings the group together
~Each is empowered to express themselves honestly and has a sense that their voice matters
~There is deeper compassion for yourself and others and when conflict arises members support each other to repair the connection
WHAT MOVES ME TO SHARE COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION:
In sharing this communication process I talk candidly from my heart and listen deeply to people’s challenging experiences. To feel my heart received is a great gift. I love to hold space for and support the “ah ha” insights and the related clarity, compassion and empowerment that unfolds for people as they learn the communication and awareness tools of this process and hear me share of my own challenges and transformations. When I see someone come to an awareness that opens them up and connects them to their essential nature beyond the conditioning we carry, this is when my heart swells with joy and I am truly fuelled, for there is nothing I would rather contribute to. I also have a great passion for supporting groups of people who have a common purpose of service, to find ways to work collaboratively, to thrive together and use their collective creative power to manifest their vision. This is what moves me.
MORE ABOUT MELODY:
The focus of trainings are tailored to your group’s needs
1/2 DAY TASTER
An experiential overview of the NVC tools
1 DAY INTRO
An overview of the tools with deeper practical application in your life
2 DAY WORKSHOP
A more thorough introduction to the process and an exploration of a chosen area of focus, covering the most pertinent processes for your group
8 WEEK COURSE
Integrating the basics of the process into daily life through weekly 2 ½ hr classes, growing a supportive community with a shared intention for compassionate relationship
1 WEEK-1 MONTH TRAINING INTENSIVE
Suitable for a community of people living/working together.
Melody comes and stays in your community and co-designs a training format to serve your group to integrate NVC into your group’s endeavors, and work through day to day challenges.
The chosen format for training intensives could include:
~full day trainings
~weekly or bi-weekly course
~daily practice group
~one on one personal sessions
~support for group meetings
~coaching for leadership based on NVC
Example of Possible Training Schedule for A Week:
-1/2 Day, 1 Day or 2 Day Workshop to start the week
-Two 2 ½hr. sessions or five 1hr. sessions through the week
-2 hours consultation to support the ongoing integration of NVC
(with a leadership committee or potential facilitator of an ongoing practice group)
After your group has had training, you may want to access the invaluable support of ongoing coaching to address the arising issues and needs of your group, and get guidance on how to deal with challenges that arise.
A central part of Compassionate Communication is the inner work. Personal sessions give you one on one support to get to the root of your current communication challenges and relationship dynamics, to get connected to your needs amidst a life change or decision, and to find inner clarity, compassion and empowerment.
Explore processes for:
~sourcing life energy of needs within
~transforming old pain
~making choices based on needs
~bringing awareness to core beliefs
~illuminating trigger patterns
~empathizing with others
~growing compassion for yourself
APPROACH TO LEARNING
Experiential learning~ exploring personal experience in relation to the practices being shared, using demonstrations, role plays, visual aids, exercises involving movement, games and the “NVC Dancefloors” * to address different learning styles
Group relationship ~ interactive partner and group exercises, learning from practicing with others, and working with the present group dynamic
Co-creation~ feedback is requested from the group on an ongoing basis about relevancy and how needs are being met
Real Life Material~ I share from my own life challenges, growth and insights through re-enacting interactions, answering questions candidly, and sharing stories in relation to the topic
Resources~ Handouts related to the area of focus, questions to evoke self reflection, and exercises to take away for integrating what we practice
* The NVC Dancefloors are interactive maps for learning NVC that use movement and visuals to support a fuller integration of the process. They were developed by Certified NVC Trainers Bridget Belgrave and Gina Lawrie~ www.GnB.org.uk
ABOUT THE COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION PROCESS:
There are essentially four parts to the process, each of which are pointers for our awareness:
~making OBSERVATIONS~ cultivating a neutral witness,
~expressing FEELINGS~ speaking from the present experience in our body,
~recognizing our NEEDS~ getting at the heart of what is important to us,
~making REQUESTS~ finding actions that will enrich life and serve us in living what is most important to us.
NVC is a dance between three areas of focus: self-awareness, expressing honestly, and receiving others empathically.
THE PROCESS SUPPORTS A SHIFT IN CONSCIOUSNESS…
from power over to power-with, from scarcity to abundance, from diagnosis to self responsible authenticity, from punishment/reward and good/bad to understanding the needs we are trying to meet, and from rebellion or submission to making choices based on needs. NVC offers us a pathway for taking full responsibility for what we contribute to life.
THE PREMISES OF NVC
-Everything that we do is an attempt to get our needs met
-Our feelings point to whether our needs are met or unmet
-People naturally find joy in contributing to others’ wellbeing
-We are each responsible for how we respond to what others do or say
-As human beings we all share the same universal needs
-There is enough in the world for all to have their basic needs met
-Moving from right/wrong, good/bad thinking and focusing on understanding the needs we and others are trying to meet in what we are doing supports compassion and peace
THE ROOTS OF NVC
NVC was developed by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. after an in depth life exploration of what leads us to violence and what leads us to act from our compassionate nature. This exploration included a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and an in depth study of various spiritual traditions and perennial wisdom teachings. Marshall is founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) which is an international organization that works on various social change initiatives and certifies NVC Trainers. This communication process is being taught to people in schools, governments, warring nations and communities around the world. You can find more about Marshall, NVC trainers and CNVC at www.cnvc.org.
“What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” —Marshall B. Rosenberg, NVC founder
WANT TO KNOW MORE?
Check out the Center For Nonviolent Communication: www.cnvc.org
RATES & EXCHANGES
My primary interest is to be of service to those who are inspired to share in what I have to offer. I also have a basic guideline for valuing my work that I see as supporting me to care for my wellbeing, my daily living needs and to have ease in continuing to offer this work to all those who are inspired about learning NVC..
DETERMINING RATES/EXCHANGE FOR YOUR GROUP:
In our initial conversation we can dialogue about your group’s needs, your financial capacity, a suitable training plan, possible non-financial exchanges and together come up with an arrangement that works for all. As a basis, I ask that my lodging, food, and sometimes transport expenses are covered, depending on the circumstances.
Transform conflicts into harmonious collaboration
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